posted 11th June 2025
Saying goodbye to a beloved pet is one of the most heart-wrenching decisions any owner can face. Our pets are not just animals; they are family, companions, and faithful friends. As difficult as it is, there may come a time when letting go is the kindest and most compassionate choice. But how do you know when that time has come?
We understand how emotionally overwhelming this stage of your pet’s life can be. This guide has been written to gently help you recognise the signs that it might be time to say goodbye — and to remind you that it's okay to need support through this incredibly hard process.
Understanding Quality of Life
When assessing whether it may be time to let your pet go, quality of life is one of the most important considerations.
A useful tool many vets refer to is the Quality of Life Scale, which includes the following factors:
- Pain – Is your pet in pain that can't be managed with medication or treatment?
- Appetite – Are they still interested in food or treats?
- Hygiene – Are they able to groom themselves or keep clean?
- Mobility – Can they move around without distress or frequent falls?
- Happiness – Do they still show interest in people, toys, or their surroundings?
- Breathing – Is their breathing laboured or difficult?
- Dignity – Can they toilet without distress or soiling themselves?
- Good days vs. bad days – Are the bad days beginning to outnumber the good?
If you're unsure how to assess these, speak to your vet — they can help you consider the medical and emotional signs more clearly and compassionately.
Trusting Your Instincts
You know your pet better than anyone. Sometimes, it’s the small changes that are most telling: a distant look, a lack of interest in their favourite toy, or no longer greeting you at the door. These shifts can indicate discomfort or emotional withdrawal.
It’s natural to question yourself. Guilt, grief, and fear can all cloud your judgement. But if your pet no longer seems to enjoy life, is struggling daily, or if you're keeping them going only because you can’t bear to let go — it may be time to reconsider.
It's OK to Not Be Sure
Many people feel uncertain about making this decision. There is no 'perfect' moment, and it's very normal to feel torn. What matters most is that you’re approaching the situation with love, care, and kindness.
You don’t have to make this decision alone. Talk to your vet, speak with family and friends who know your pet, or reach out to services like ours that support families through pet loss.
Planning for a Peaceful Goodbye
If you do decide that it’s time to say goodbye, know that there are gentle and dignified options available. Home euthanasia, for example, allows your pet to pass peacefully in their own familiar surroundings. This can bring comfort to both you and your pet during their final moments.
We’re here to help you through every step of this journey — with care, compassion, and understanding.
You're Not Alone
Losing a pet is incredibly hard, but you're not alone. Whether you're making the decision now or trying to prepare yourself emotionally, support is available.
You can visit our Pet Loss Support page here: www.rainbowbridgepetfunerals.co.uk/pet-loss-support
Please don’t hesitate to contactua. We're always here to help guide you through this painful time with dignity, kindness, and respect.
